When it comes to parenting your child, it can be easy to go too far in making sure that they stay safe. We read troubling headlines on a daily basis that fuel our mistrust of others, leading to others terming this fear as “stranger danger.” There are those who deride parents who seem too controlling and protective as “helicopter parents.” Regardless of whether or not these are fair criticisms, the precautions of protective parenting have a definite impact on our children’s perspective of the world around them.
Here are three ways that protective parenting can have consequences on children’s social development and your household:
Children will know how to keep the rest of your household safe
Should your protectiveness make an impression, being safety-conscious with your children can help them facilitate a safer household for everyone involved. Frequently, children behave in ways that endanger families. This can occur by revealing financial or personal details to others in person or online, irresponsible management of house keys or access codes to your security system, and a naivety towards strangers. However, it can be difficult to help young children balance naivety and absolute mistrust, since they tend to over-generalize advice.
They’ll can become better people readers
One result of defensive parenting is that children grow more capable of reading the intentions of people around them. This can help children better guard themselves when they’re away from your supervision. However, overprotective parenting can result in children who are socially maladjusted and mistrustful of even well-meaning strangers. To make sure you aren’t fostering blind mistrust to stunt the social development of your child, always explain the reasons that merit caution rather than just explaining that strangers can be dangerous, or that some things simply shouldn’t be done.
It can result in shyness and depression later in life
While there are benefits to being protective in childrearing, one potential consequence of helicopter parenting is that children will grow to be inappropriately shy – and even become depressed later in adolescence. Research supports the notion that being too protective can result in children feeling repressed and becoming reserved. A moderate amount of risk-taking is a natural part of every child’s development, and not allowing children to explore risks and rewards of social life free from their parents’ constant guidance can leave them not prepared to handle independence later in life.
While each of us wants to protect our children and families, it’s important to remember that healthy child development comes by allowing our young ones to become increasingly independent as they age.
The fundamental downside of Parent Teacher Conferences is the fact that you and the teacher probably have quite a lot of questions you want to ask and topics that you’d like to cover but you’re limited to a short meeting that’s between five and fifteen minutes long to fit all of that into. As well as being limited on time it’s also likely that you’ll forget a lot of what you wanted to say when you get there too which means that you’ll come away frustrated that your questions haven’t been answered.
In order to combat the majority of your problems – the problem of short lived appointments isn’t ever likely to be resolved – there are a few things you should do to prepare for perhaps the most nervous night of your year.
If both you and your partner are able to attend your child’s parents’ evening it will give the teacher an insight into the life that your child has at home and it will make it much easier to discuss what’s been said later on rather than having to relay it to your other half. If you can’t both attend though this isn’t an issue but you may want to ask a close friend or relative to go with you – especially if it’s your first parents’ evening – because it can be a nerve-wracking experience.
Parent Teacher Conferences
It’s important to allow your child to be involved and to know what’s going on otherwise they won’t understand why you have to go to their school and speak to their teacher. Just because you explain to them what’s happening doesn’t mean that they have to come with you – if they’re pretty young then having them with you can be quite a hindrance – but it will prevent them from being worried about the situation. It may also give you an insight into your child’s school life because they will be able to tell you all about what they like and dislike about school.
It’s a good idea to write down any questions that you have for the teacher before you go and take them with you along with a notepad and pen – this is especially important if only one parent will be attending because it will make it much easier to explain everything that was discussed with your partner later on.
Make sure you focus on your child
Although you might have concerns or queries about the school in general there are plenty of ways that you can find out answers to those questions later on. Parents’ evening is essentially the only time that you’ll have throughout the year to discuss your child’s progress with their teacher so it’s important to make the most of it.
Build a relationship with their teacher
Your child’s teacher is the one person who sees your child almost as much as you do so it’s important to build a good relationship with them because it will definitely work in your favour if your child ever has any problems at school.